I’ve talked about this before but I think it’s a subject I would like to discuss a bit more. I love spending time with leaders. I don’t have what it takes to lead a multi-million dollar organization yet. So I need to surround myself with leaders who will push me. 

My wife attended many meetings with me in NC, some of those meeting got heated as we discussed philosophy, vision and calling. What happens when two leaders disagree? You debate and argue because it’s that tension that causes greater clarity. But my poor wife was stressed as she was not used to seeing people (friends) go at it for a lack of better words. 

Weak leaders want to control situations and they desire everyone to do what they want and when they want. They desire followers to help them accomplish their vision. 

Don’t get me wrong-some people challenge the process in all the wrong ways. They create conflict and lack clarity.  These types of people can do much damage to the health of the leader and organization as they continue to drain the energy of the leader. 

Great leaders want to challenge the process, they want people to disagree. They seek key info and important people to help them become better at what they do. If the leader lacks confidence he will surround himself with followers who will do what they are told to do. 

But what happens when leaders genuinely disagree with each other? 

1. Calling: You better know you’re called. If your called and you’re willing to die for a cause, then people will respect you even if they disagree with you!
2. Conviction: It takes guts to make hard decisions. When you have a conviction you can withstand times of uncertainty and disagreements. 
3. Team: You better have a team around you who can confirm your calling and conviction.
4. Admit Mistakes: Humility is such a key. When you screw-up admit it.
5. Argue with respect: Love each other and pray for one-another. If your goal is to just be “right” then you will be stuck in a place of non-growth.
6. Take the advice and connect it with other advice. Look for patterns that could emerge to help you make good decisions.
7. Affirm: When debating, disagreeing and confronting always affirm and give thanks. Anyone who is willing to tell you the truth in love is a friend you need. Hold them tightly.
8. Follow-Up: Send an email or note. Keep the leader/friend/advisor in the loop.

Anything else you would add?

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